I made the shocking discovery last year that I am an introvert. It took me by surprise and liberated me in ways I never could have imagined. I’m still learning to navigate it, because 1) I’ve always strongly preferred my extrovert side and 2) I forget. I forget that I’m an introvert and I forget that I need to recharge to function. I forget it, until I feel extra crabby, and take a step back to figure out what my deal is. Then it’s like, oooooh right. The introvert thing.
And it’s even becoming more apparent to my husband. After a particularly awesome, amazing, spectacular trip to Vegas with my girlfriends, I used up aaaaaall my extrovert powers and came home quiet and a little withdrawn, upon which Paul asked if I was OK. At first I couldn’t put my finger on it. And then when I realized “OH! I’m an introvert! I think I need to spend some time alone to recharge.” he was like “Oh right! I forgot about that.”
It still troubles me as a parent often enough. I know I need that me-time, but I still carry around stupid guilt and question myself. I juggle between thoughts of how much time is enough and how much is too much. I feel guilty when I’m just being and I’m not getting shit done. It’s tricky to find that balance.
This morning I woke up feeling pretty good. It’s notable when that happens, because it’s rare. I traced back my activities of yesterday, and we had a play date, so you would think I would be a little drained. But in all actuality, this play date was with a good friend of mine who is also a bit of an introvert. And we just introverted together. It was seriously just what I needed. A hang out to have some company and adult conversation, without really having to do anything. The perfect storm in a way.
Plus Stevie was in heaven having a little friend to entertain and show off his stunt man skills to. I mean look at his face and the filth! He was soooo happy. It was exhausting.
So, my dear fellow introverts, find other introverts to hang out with. You might be pleasantly surprised.
What a great recommendation! I have also realized later in my life that I am a bit of an introvert, I definitely need me time/solo time to recharge. I have found that is part of why parenting is such a big struggle for me, I am never alone until the kids are in bed! Thanks for sharing this introverting tip, I love it.
Guess we need to hang out! Just sayin’